(Bookish Problems, #3) Recommendations and Hyped Books

      We all at least once find ourselves in the situation like this - we read a book in one sitting, spend next fifteen minutes with our mouth hanging open and no ability to verbalize a coherent thought, then comes the loudest fangirl scream and than we start to hype everywhere we can and  recommend it to our friends.
I have few of those too - I think that people started to hate me because of my obsession with Rainbow Rowell in January.

     Being completely captivated by your recent read to the point that you want to make everyone you know to read it too, is not a bad thing. I live, breathe and blog for those, we want to pick up books that will make us feel and think about them for years. But here comes a problem. What if your friends don't like it as much as you do? When they start to talk about all things that didn't work out for them? Plot inconsistency? Bad writing? Negative morals of the story? Do you start to doubt your initial judgement? Agree with some things they write in their reviews?

     One of the things I learned trough my blogging experience is that  you should never write the review for the book you've just finished reading, especially if you loved it. Do not recommend it to your friends. Why? Because you would be writing about your impressions, your emotional reaction to the book and not the book itself. There is no in-depth interpretation of characters, plot, writing, message of the story. Emotions are important, but you have to take a time to cool off and really think about what you read.
I've made that mistake many times, especially on Goodreads. If I ever decide to revise my ratings, I guarantee you that most of them would be much lower.

     This brings us to the recommendations. How do you decide which book to recommend to one of your friends? Have you ever send a recommendation to all of your Goodreads friends? (I did in the beginning, but not anymore.) Do you have a group of people you trust?
       Tanja and I have similar expectations, but our taste is not completely the same. However, we know each other good enough to know what would other like or hate. Also, there are two other girls we talk on daily basis for the last three years. I used to think that there is no way Zemira could recommend me a book I wouldn't adore or vice versa. Surprise, surprise - it happened. I didn't like The Fault in Our Stars like Tanja did, Zemira wasn't impressed with Between Shades of Gray - Tanja and I still talk about that book. Lately I have a hard time trying to judge what would some of my friends enjoy reading because our tastes changed. That is completely normal thing.

      Reading hyped books is the other problem I have. Last few months I try to avoid reading reviews and comments for books that everyone seems to love. My expectations skyrocket and then it becomes really hard to read a book and not think about everything you heard about it. Sometimes I end up surprised and swept off my feet, but in the most cases I have this constant thought in my head: "When will come the amazing part? I am still waiting." It's the same thing as expectations we have when we go to see latest blockbuster - after two hours we leave with realization that all of the epic scenes were shown in trailer and that you wasted those 3 or 4 euros you had paid for your ticket.

      So, tell us - do you have similar issues? What do you think about hyped books? Last recommendation that disappointed you?